Are you achieving work life balance…

14th October, 2019

It’s work-life balance week. It’s taken me this long to actually get this post out here, but I have put spent a week thinking about it

Here’s the definition of balance:




an even distribution of weight enabling someone or something to remain upright and steady.

“she lost her balance and fell”

a situation in which different elements are equal or in the correct proportions.

“the obligations of political balance in broadcasting”

*Source: Oxford Dictionaries

As I write this, it’s Sunday, 1.16 pm, I’m still in my pyjamas and I’ve not been able to drag myself off the sofa since I dragged myself out of the bed at 8am this morning (I know, 8 am!! The Husband took the kids downstairs and left me to sleep!). I look like sh*t, I feel much worse than I look and I have realised that I have been labouring under the misapprehension that I have achieved work-life-balance when really what I have achieved is a gold star in work, life, crash and burn, feel a bit better, convince myself I’m okay, repeat!

For the last 3 years, I’ve been using words and terms like work-life-balance, lifestyle business and passive income. But I have been in denial, kidding myself, perhaps even burying my head in the sand. For to achieve work-life-balance, one has to understand what one wants to achieve; one’s limitations; and discipline. Essentially focussing on the right things at the right times.

Although I do seem to possess these traits, I have failed miserably at implementing them! But I am learning. Here’s what I’ve learnt:

  1. I know what I want to achieve but my entrepreneurial flair gets the better of me every time and I over-commit myself. I want to do everything, now. There is a time and a place for everything and patience is not one of my virtues! To achieve work-life balance, I have to focus on the one thing that will get me to my short-term, mid-term and long-term goal.
  2. I have absolutely no regard for my limitations. I ignore that they are there and I push myself to the absolute maximum every single day. I get up at 6 am (today excepted), I get on ‘the go’ and I don’t stop until I drop at bedtime! When I go to bed, it’s because I am literally ready to drop. I am incapable of sitting and doing nothing, I don’t really watch tv and I judge my daily successes by how much I’ve achieved in any given 24-hour period. Every few months exhaustion kicks in and my body reminds me who is really control and I’m floored before I pick myself up, brush myself off and start all over again! Understanding when to do things, avoiding boom or bust and actually having ‘balance’ is key to the work-life thing. All or nothing does not equal balance!
  3. I am so self-motivated, determined and tenacious but I let my creative flair run away with me and try to do too many things at once. Focus is essential. You have to be able to have boundaries; work time and life-time otherwise it all seeps into one another. Don’t put things off. Prioritise effectively. Rule the day, don’t let the day rule you. Have boundaries on when it’s time to work and when it’s time for life. Being disciplined is key to achieving balance.

So, as I sit here collapsed on my sofa beating myself up over my lack of achievements today, the fact that I didn’t see this collapse coming (or that I did and chose to ignore it) and I consider whether work-life balance is actually a misnomer or whether it can be achieved, what it really wonder is whether this should have been a post for #worldmentalhealthday or #worklifeweek ……

I’ll let you know what I conclude in upcoming posts!


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